HEALTH | ATOMIC HABITS REALLY IS A THING

 I recently read Atomic Habits by James Clear and totally loved it. The secret to success really does lie in everyday habits - and according to Clear, once you make those teeny tweaks at an atomic, basic level, the rest falls into place.  

HOW TO BUILD GOOD HABITS

1. It’s about who you want to be, not who you are
Knowing where to start can be just as difficult as starting out. Good habits come from knowing who you want to be, rather than trying to formulate the exact outcome you want (after all, very little goes exactly the way we expect). Take a moment to think about the kind of person you want to be and ask whether that person would do (or not do) a certain action.  This is where we can start to identify opportunities to form new, helpful habits. 

2. Clarity > motivation
Sometimes when we think we lack motivation, we actually lack clarity. In order to commit to an action, it is not essential to know exactly what we are doing but critically why we are doing it. 

3. A little goes a long way
A good habit is like compound interest - investing in yourself over time will magnify the returns.

4Remember the benefits of starting small:

  • It makes starting and sticking to your new habit easier.

  • Once you’ve mastered your first habit, you can then easily introduce another - this is called stacking habits: “Once I’ve done x, I will then do y straight after.”

  • Stacking your habits in this way will create a new routine that you can grow over time making it even easier to follow.

5. Reward yourself
In order to make this automatic, you have to play to the strength of your own brain’s chemistry. Train it to associate achieving your habit with some sort of reward, however small. 

6. Your environment matters
A change in your environment might just be the secret weapon to unlocking your new habit. Think of it as removing temptation or simply preempting a future moment of weakness.

FITNESS & HEALTH | HEAL YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH FOOD

Another diet? What if you healed your relationship with food instead? This week we hand over the blog to expert Briana McAteer who works with individuals to heal their relationship with food and eating habits.

For some of you, another new year means another new diet. Maybe this diet will solve your problem with food!  What if, instead of a new diet, this year you actually healedyour relationship with food?

Have you ever considered that maybe food isn’t the problem?  Consider, the more we obsess, stress over and scrutinise about what we’re eating, the more we miss the point.

 

So what’s the point we’re missing?  The reason we find it difficult to follow the diet, or stop snacking between meals, or say ‘no’ to food when we’re not hungry, is not because we haven’t found the best, most sustainable diet yet, it’s because of how we relate to food.

 

Our relationship with food is determined by how we behavetowards food. Changing our meal plan won’t change our behaviour. Your behaviour towards food and therefore your relationship with food, changes when you understand what you’re using food for.

 

If following diets and meal plans didn’t work for your mother in the 1970s or ‘80s and it hasn’t worked for you in the ‘90s, ‘00s or ‘10s, why on God’s earth do we think it will work now in the 2020s?!?

 

What I want you to know is– and really take a minute to hear this –  not sticking to a diet doesn’t mean ANYTHING ABOUT YOU!  A number of “failed” diets in your past doesn’t mean anything about how competent you are or how worthy you are, nor does it say anything about what’s possible for you.

 

Diets haven’t worked because we have been focusing on whatwe eat or when we eat, rather than why we eat.  We’ve been conditioned to believe if we eat different food and follow the newest diet plan life will be better.  But we KNOW what to eat.  We know eating more vegetables is good for us and eating a bucket of ice-cream – not great.

 

We don’t need to be told what to eat.  We need to understand why we feel controlled by food.  We all know how horrible it feels to commit to no snacks after dinner, only to find yourselfelbow-deep in ice-cream…again!  

 

Instead of tracking, weighing, and counting food, we need to understand why we overeat when we’re tired or our kids are screaming.  When the “Why” goes unquestioned, it runs the show. It’s subconscious. One minute you are a sane woman dutifully sticking to her diet, and the next minute you’re hiding the evidence of how much you’ve eaten.  Seriously, how did that happen? Now you feel horrible. You say horrible things about yourself and believe something is very wrong with you.

 

THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU. YOU’RE NOT BROKEN. YOU DON’T NEED FIXED.

 

It makes complete sense you would over eat ice-cream.  Everything is working perfectly when you zone out eating Ben and Jerry’s.  If you’re searching the cupboard every 20 minutes, you’re doing exactly what your brain is designed to do. Your brain has created the habit of using food to solve the feeling of uncomfortable emotions.  Given the way the brain works – this makes TOTAL SENSE.  Emotions can be painful and the brain is designed to avoid pain.  Food is pleasurable.  So instead of feeling negative emotions we eat.

 

Nothing has gone wrong; it just doesn’t serve us now.  Until we learn to rewire the habit and process our emotions without turning to food, trying to change what’s on your plate (or bowl) will continue to be an infuriating and desperate merry-go-round.

 

A habit consists of: A trigger, a behaviour, and a reward. The trigger is an emotion, which is caused by a THOUGHT. The behaviour is eating ice cream. The reward is dopamine. 

 

For example:

 

Trigger (an emotion caused by a thought):  Thought-- I hate the way my boss spoke to me today. Emotion-- Unappreciated. Resentful.

 

Behaviour: Eating lots of ice cream

 

Reward: Dopamine (FYI: dopamine is a great way to cover up crappy feelings)

 

To identify your triggers, the next time you overeat, ask yourself these questions:

1.       What was going on? (events/ circumstances)

2.       What was I thinking about what was going on? (write down all of your thoughts)

3.       When I believed those thoughts, how did I feel? (use a 1-word emotion)

The answer to those questions is the answer to your question, “Why do I feel so out of control around ice-cream?” When you’re triggered, your brain’s main priority is to avoid feeling pain by seeking the pleasure food creates.  That’s why these cravings feel so urgent.  But eating ice cream is only a temporary plaster. When the bowl is empty the emotion and the problem still exist.

To finally sustain the behaviour you want around food, you must learn to process emotions effectively so you don’t needto turn to food. Habitually processing your emotions, instead of mindlessly eating, will eventually rewire your brain and create a new habit so that food is no longer a problem. 

Then you will have healed your relationship with food. 

To learn how to process your emotions effectively, ditch the diet and start the process of healing your relationship with food, book your free consultation briana_mcateer@hotmail.com



FITNESS & HEALTH | HEALTHY HABITS THAT AREN’T JUST FOR JANUARY

Most people tend to start the New Year full of eager resolutions, ready to cut down (or cut out completely) on alcohol, sugar and salt, or gluten, carbs or fat (or indeed whatever their perceived poison is!) They’ll also aim to go to the gym 4 times a week in a purge-filled, post-Christmas guilt-fest; however as the weeks go on and reality hits, we soon realise that perhaps cutting out everything wasn’t such a good idea after all. And the promise to exercise every day isn’t always feasible with hectic work schedules, family or social commitments and everything else that daily life throws at us.

So before long the resolutions are forgotten about and life carries on the same way as before.

For a long time I’ve not bothered with New Year’s resolutions. I hate to sound smug, but instead I try to ingrain healthy habits for the whole year – but at the same time I don’t beat myself up if I fall off the wagon. Because, ya know, #BALANCE!

Here are some thoughts on long term resolutions - or healthy life goals as I like to call them!

Create-a-mindset-your-body-will-love-you-for_daily-inspiration.jpg

Keep a wellness diary

This time last year I made a promise to myself to spend the year ahead focusing on me and start saying yes to as many opportunities as possible. I think I am naturally inclined to focus on keeping those close to me happy and often put their needs before my own and, in the past, this has proven to be detrimental to my own health and wellbeing.

So I decided to focus on getting it a bit more balanced! I said yes to things that would usually make me apprehensive, spent time travelling,  seeing friends and doing things that I love and ended up having a wonderful 2019 whilst getting to know (and love) myself a whole lot better. I definitely want to take this habit into 2020 and continue to appreciate and love my body and self just the way I am.

A good way to start this change of mindset is to start making lists of your wellness habits (the good, bad and the ugly!) on a day to day basis. Start by making a list of your goals (emotional, psychological and physical), a reasonable time frame to achieve them as well as an action plan on how to achieve them.

Start making a note of everything that goes into your body (food, drink, supplements) as well as sleep habits, weight, exercise and relaxation.
This can allow you to see bad habits and influences you didn’t even know you had. Sometimes we have to let go of things (and people) as they aren’t good for us, no matter how much we want them. So if you have any toxic people in your life or people that bring you down, then don’t be afraid to close the door on them on 2020.

p8_Yoga_N1711_ts494389839.jpg

Take up yoga
If you are not a yoga person then why not take it up this year? Not only are the benefits endless, but it is great for toning! And PS, it can be Body Balance or Pilates or Reformer Pilates – whatever gets you stretching and breathing is definitely good.

Walk when you can
Never underestimate the benefits of walking. Walk to work instead of driving… or if you get the bus, get off a stop earlier and walk the rest of the way. I know I’ve talked about this many times before on the blog, but I often do ‘walk and talk’ meetings with clients, which are a great way to get some fresh air whilst having productive chats without any distractions (or sugary snacks at a café!).

Cut down on processed foods
Refined, processed foods aren’t great for the body. They often contain high levels of salt, sugar and preservatives. Try and stick to fresh fruit and vegetables which will keep you fuller for longer and give you the vitamins you need.

Plan healthy meals in advance
Try and do a weekly meal planner to avoid ‘convenience eating’. After work when you’re feeling tired it can be easy to reach for the microwavable meals, but by planning and shopping in advance it means you are guaranteed to have a nutritious meal. *Batch cooking on Sundays is – for me – quite therapeutic and depletes some of the Sunday fear as you get such a feeling of accomplishment when it is done!

790ca1eb970925381cc00ca335b8e0bd.jpg

And one of my main ones that I think should be everyone’s focus…

BE KIND! TO YOURSELF AND OTHERS…
We can be our own worst enemies and find ourselves plagued by the comparison thief, especially when we spend too long scrolling online. If you do one thing this year, make sure to take a digital detox and stop spending hours trawling through Instagram comparing yourself to your favourite models, superstars and bloggers. Not only do they know the best angles and lights, they also know the best apps to use and underneath the glamour and makeup they also have their own insecurities, like we do, so always be kind to yourself when comparing – and be kind to them too. There is enough negativity in the world without adding to it by posting nasty remarks under pictures or criticising others’ action, just don’t be that person. You come across badly. Always.

 

 

FITNESS | 10 WAYS TO KEEP FIT WITHOUT THE GYM

The festive season is full of boozy lunches, roast dinners and cocktails galore for some (and we won’t even mention the half-eaten sweetie tins and cheeseboards in my kitchen, because well, they don’t count, right?!)

All of this can make the waist band a little tighter come January and February – and in the spirit of balance, we shouldn’t beat ourselves up or force ourselves to run to the nearest gym, with their restrictive membership contracts and costly fees, but if you *do* want to get a little fitter and lose those extra pounds then check out these super-effective tips for keeping fit without the gym below… In short, it’s about moving more – so just find something which allows you to get into your groove and you’re half way there.

1.    Walk when possible

Walking is the most underrated exercise, it’s what us human beings are made for, literally! Plus, getting out in the fresh air automatically makes you feel so much better inside and out, and it gets the heart pumping at the same time – so it’s a win-win! I love doing ‘walk & talk’ meetings and often meet clients and friends for a coastal walk instead of the usual office or café meetup; and it is so much more productive!
Ditch the car, and the dreadful commute or get the bus or train to work and get off at the stop before and walk the extra mile (or kilometre), you’ll see the results in no time and will feel more energetic going into the office.  Most, if not all, iPhones now have a HEALTH app and your phone can count your daily steps, which is a great indicator of how you’re doing. If you have a target (and it doesn’t have to be the much-talked-about 10,000 steps a day), it will not only make you feel better and boost self esteem as you improve each day and each week.

2.    Workout videos

There are TONNES of free workout videos online which you can do in the comfort of your own home at a time that suits you. It can also be worthwhile investing in some basic gym equipment like dumb bells to power up your workout. I got mine in a charity shop – so they don’t have to be expensive! You can even use bags of sugar or flour from the cupboards, or I’ve seen videos of new mums using their babies as weights 😊 (obviously this is done with care for the baby!).
Even without a video it’s easy to find simple exercise lists on Pinterest or Instagram. Maybe try to use these to add in some bodyweight exercises to your day? Planks, push ups, squats and star jumps are all great ways to get moving, and you can even do them whilst waiting for the kettle to boil. Since Valentina was little, I always suggest 10 star jumps then a hug if we’re feeling cold. And it works!

3.    Get an app

There are lots of apps available that are packed with quick workout videos. 7 minute workout is a great app that personalises workouts depending on your needs, plus, they are short which is great when you don’t have lots of time!

download.jpg

4.    Take the stairs

Did you know that climbing stairs burns more calories per minute than jogging?! Forget the elevator and the escalator and take the stairs, it will work wonders for your health!

5.    Join a sports club

Taking up a new sport is a fantastic way of keeping fit and you get to meet lots of new people which is always great! There are also lots of local amenities like tennis courts etc across all councils here that are either free to use or charge a small amount, so why not grab your friends and use a bit of healthy competition to get that heart racing?

6.      Drink water

Regular readers will now that water is one of my beauty and health (not-so) secrets! Not only is it great for your skin, organs and general healthy but replacing your usual fizzy drink with water is one of the easiest ways to lose excess weight and get your metabolism functioning properly – not to mention brain fog etc etc (see my full blog here). Sometimes we can mistake thirst for hunger so drinking 2-3 litres of water in the day time can stop us from reaching for sugary snacks throughout the day too!

7.    Run!

The NHS couch-to-5k is a great app for beginner runners. Once you have the app you can work at your own pace, repeating weeks when necessary. There are also lots of local couch-to-5k groups, and the FREE Park Run courses across towns and cities, so if you like the social aspect of working out then find your local one and join up – you will never look back.

8.    Create your own bootcamp

Why not grab some friends and create your own bootcamp? All you need is some creativity and a pair of trainers. In fact, you don’t have to be in a bunch – create your own DIY camp. And if you’re really game, film it for posterity or to share online. Head to your garden or a local park and create a circuit, doing each activity for 30-90 seconds.  You can do things like jumping jacks, plank, jumping squats, lunges and lots more!

9.    Take a hike

OK so hiking is just like walking, except in the hills… So this is point 1 on repeat, but with scenery. We are so lucky to live in NI where there are so many beautiful places to take a hike. The Mourne Mountains, Slemish, Cave Hill or any of the coastal, forest or river paths around us provide some amazing views whilst also getting the heart working! Remember to wear comfy shoes, bring water and snacks and make sure people know where you are going.

10.  Swim!

Only the bravest – or maddest – souls go swimming outdoors, but so many people are doing it now. My local beach at Helen’s Bay has daily regulars, while in nearby Bangor there is a pretty robust (and, by all accounts, fun) club and I have heard of many others across the country from as far away as Hamsptead Heath in London to Howth in Dublin Bay. Cold water therapy does wonders for the circulation as well as the central nervous system. I’ve not been brave enough yet, but maybe this is the year! Let me know if you dare to dip!

FITNESS AND HEALTH | 10 foods to boost your immune system this January.

‘Houston, we have a problem.’ It’s no surprise that our immune systems are down in winter. The cold, damp air outside, plus cooped up humans in overheated environments inside create the ideal setting for viruses and bacteria to spread.

There are so many over-the-counter remedies for traditional winter ailments, but did you know that your diet is one of the best ways to beat (and even prevent) illness?  (Along with other things like getting at least seven hours’ sleep, the flu jab and washing your hands regularly).  If you don’t already know what to eat to keep the bugs at bay, read on – as these simple tips can ward off even the ugliest immune system attackers.

grapefruit.jpg

Peppers and citrus 
Vitamin C is a great vitamin to support your immune system and, because your body doesn’t store it, you need daily vitamin C for continued health.  

Although most of us are familiar with citrus fruits being a great source of Vitamin C, did you know that ounce for ounce, bell peppers actually contain more Vitamin C than an orange?! But in general, with such a variety of food to choose from, it is easy to add a squeeze of this vitamin to any meal.

Blueberries

Blueberries contain flavonoids, a type of antioxidant that can help reduce damage to cells and boost your immune system. They are also a great source of vitamins, including Vitamin A & C, potassium, dietary fibre and manganese. So stock up your fridge with this little ball of goodness and either eat on their own or pair with other immune-boosting superfoods to make a delicious smoothie.

Garlic
Garlic is great for fighting infection and is a must-have for your health. It is also thought to lower blood pressure and slow down hardening of the arteries, so add it to your meals for a little zing and lots of immune-boosting goodness!

Green Tea
People have been using green tea as a type of natural medicine for thousands of years. Researchers believe that one of the reasons it is so good for you is because it contains a substance known as catwchin which is a powerful antioxidant that also helps maintain your immune system.

This month, try replacing your morning cup of coffee for a hot green tea with honey and lemon and get ready to reap the benefits.

Mushrooms
Mushrooms contain Vitamin D which can help keep your immune system strong. They also combat many diseases by providing important vitamins, minerals and enzymes. Varieties like maitake, reishi and shiitake are particularly good for staying healthy during cold and flu season.

ginger.jpg

Ginger
Many of us turn to ginger after getting sick because of its ability to help decrease inflammation, which can help reduce a sore throat and other inflammatory illnesses.
Every morning, and especially during the winter months, I make myself a drink of apple cider vinegar, honey, lemon and ginger (with turmeric when I can find the fresh root, because it has UH-MAZING anti-inflammatory properties in itself) plus some cooled-down, boiled water which seems to prevent me catching any nasty colds! *Read up on my separate Apple Cider Vinegar blog here

almonds.jpg

Almonds
Nuts, particularly almonds, contain many different types of nutrients, such as protein and vitamin E (a half-cup of almonds provides your daily recommended amount of vitamin E). Although Vitamin E isn’t as important to a strong immune system as Vitamin C, it is still needed to keep your immune system healthy (plus it’s fab for your skin!).  Almonds also contain zinc, calcium, selenium, copper and magnesium and are richer in nutrients that any other nut.

Cruciferous Vegetables
Crucierferous vegetables include broccoli, kale, cabbage and Brussels sprouts - which are all packed full of vitamins A, C and E as well as antioxidants and fibre. They are healthiest when eaten raw or slightly cooked and a great immune system booster. Crunchy stir fry anyone?